September 2, 2010

Dear AJ,

I received the email below from Angela’s Brother the other day.  This is the kind of distortion I was referring to.  The true part is - I did want you to contact him.  But did you ever hear me state that in any of our conversations or written correspondence that I said the mom and brother hate her or can’t stand her?  This is just a small example of what has been a reoccurring pattern for the last 18 months.

My “cause” is pretty simple.  I just want to be left alone to enjoy what little time I get to spend with my kids and don’t want to be hauled into court every few months for some sort of non-issue.  I also don’t want to pursue therapy with this person, because I just have no trust that it will be used to launch some other kind of attack and many other reasons.  I’m going to write a letter to the FOC suggesting testing of Angela for BPD by a therapist that specializes in this disorder.  I have the name and number of one in Farmington Hills.  I’m assuming she will state that I’m the one with the problem and need to be tested as well, which I will fully agree to. 

I think we need to put my speculation to rest.  If she has this or some related disorder, than let’s get it treated and pursue a sensible therapy program for Riley and Brayden that teaches them how to cope with a BPD mom.  If not and I am the one with issues, then we can address those as they are discovered.  If I am wrong in my BPD or related diagnosis, I will also agree to whatever parenting schedule Angela thinks should be put in place and to whatever programs like “ADEPT” she thinks I should attend.

Brett Behm

From Mike Forge sent on Sunday August 29, 1010

From: MAF 
Sent: Sunday, August 29, 2010 4:49 PM
To: Brett
Subject: Long Time, No Talk

Hey Brett,

Angela called me the other day to tell me that, once again, my name has been coming up in your family counseling sessions. As I have indicated in the past, I do not want to be used in any way to further whatever cause it is you are pursuing. She indicated that you have said that both my mom and I "hate her," "can't stand her," and "think she's crazy." If that's true, it is preposterous, and I'm disappointed that you would twist my concern for both of you into something like that.

She also told me that you gave my phone number to the counselor and said that I would vouch for your assertions. I will not, and I can assure you my mom won't either.

Don't bother contacting me to tell me how inaccurate all of the things Angela told me are. I don't care whether they are or are not. I've been down that road enough to last me several lifetimes. Either way, I know one thing beyond a doubt: I do not want to be involved in your relationship or used as a weapon against my sister. Period.

I am copying her on this email.

m

From Mike Forge sent on Thursday April 23, 2009

From: On Behalf Of MAF
Sent: Thursday, April 23, 2009 1:42 PM
To: Brett
Subject: Re: Have a good weekend.

I am afraid from here on out I am going to sound like even more of a broken record than I have before: do not try to figure her out, do not try to reason with her, do not contact her unnecessarily, do not have long conversations with her, do not send emails and text messages back and forth with her, do not engage with her, do not react to her, do not waste time or energy thinking about her. This is not just advice I'm giving to you, but advice I am practicing myself and my mom has said she is going to try to practice as well. I believe she is still in denial that she herself has a problem (and, no, this does not mean you should try to convince her she does) and until she realizes she does, nothing will change. You have told her, repeatedly, she needs help. I have told her she needs help. Neither you nor I are equipped to give it to her (not that you still have any desire to at this point).

You absolutely did the right thing by calling 911. If her friends are too idiotic to realize that and be thankful for it, screw them. And anyone who doesn't care enough about you to at least hear your side of things before shunning you, was never really your friend to begin with. You have friends of your own and I think you said someone you're even seeing romantically now. So, stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you and get on with your life. Have faith that the truth will come out in the end.

m